Did you know there are over 5000 body language moves, all of which tell a story about the person expressing the movement and the person interpreting it? By understanding how to read and use body language effectively, you can understand yourself better, build your confidence, and decode others' body language.
Key Takeaways
If You Want To Use Body Language To Show Up More Confidently, You Should:
Connecting To Your Body Through Body Language
Tiff Lee is dedicated to helping women be seen and heard in all areas of life with the life-changing information that is body language decoding. Once you hear what Tiff has to say about body language cues, how to use body language to improve your relationships or seek out when someone is lying, and ways that you can use body language to improve your confidence, you are never going to forget it.
What Can Body Language Do for You?
How you present yourself through your physical body language can drastically change how you show up in the world. Body language can help you step into your confidence (even if you aren’t actually feeling that cool) and provide a way for you to connect back into your body and what you are doing. Instead of being quiet and passive, proper body language and expression can help you command the attention you deserve with ease.
Decoding Others Through Body Language
Understanding body language can not only give you the awareness to appear more confident; it can also help you pick up on other people's cues. While most people think about body language decoding as something out of a CSI episode, it is really just a simple tactic to help you sense when something might not be quite right.
Small movements such as a shoulder shrug, hiding your hands, or an anxious ‘pacifier’ are all signs that you should tune into what someone else's body is trying to tell you. Body language's power lies in your ability to be aware of the body cues that make a person look anxious so that you can stop yourself from involuntarily showing up that way too.
Have you ever considered that your subconscious body language is hindering or helping your ability to show up as your true authentic self? How do you relate to body language and body connectivity? Share which piece of Tiff’s advice you are going to implement into your daily routine with me in the comments section of the episode page.
In This Episode
Quotes
“We miss out on these things because we are so busy listening that we don’t see what is going on physically.” (8:50)
“These movements should be congruent with what you are saying verbally. So anytime the verbal doesn’t match the nonverbal, that is kind of your cue that something else may be going on.” (18:40)
“It is really hard to try to verbally tell the truth and then have your body language match that. Because our brains don’t like to do both, they can only do one or the other.” (19:45)
“When you are not feeling that confident, try to do those things. Because those small movements will register on a subconscious level to other people, and then, believe it or not, it’ll register for you too!” (26:10)
“When people think of body language, the first thing they tend to think about is the lies, and the negativity, and the criminal shows, and all of that. And while it is extremely valid in those areas, it's also so important in our everyday lives.” (35:56)
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We have made it to the final principle in our Intuitive Eating series, and it is by far the most misunderstood of them all. Principle 10 is all about gentle nutrition and embracing food as something that is there to nurture you, not punish you.
Key Takeaways
If You Want to Embrace Gentle Nutrition You Should:
Lets Set the Record Straight About Gentle Nutrition
There are many misunderstandings around Principle 10, which is why it is the last principle for good reason. All of the principles have a firm basis in nutrition, but exploring gentle nutrition is something that must be done after you have already embraced the Intuitive Eating framework.
Your Body Is Your Home
Many of us have been raised to distrust our bodies and live in fear of our own being. This is simply ludicrous, and we have diet culture to thank for pitting ourselves against our own inner wisdom and body trust in favor of how we look externally. You should not be fearful or anxious about your body, but instead, embrace your physical vessel and how it works to serve you in the world at any size or shape.
Your Search for Perfection Is Not Healthy
If what you are eating or your constant search for perfection is causing you stress or anxiety, it is not healthy. How we think about food directly affects our actions towards it, and it is only by changing our mentality to an additive mindset rather than a restrictive one that we can start to embrace our worthiness. When it comes to making intuitive eating a part of your life, it involves practice and support. Changing your mindset may take some time, but it is crucial to your ability to stop looking for perfection on your plate and start embracing how your body can serve you right here and now.
What was your favorite principle shared in the Intuitive Eating series? Share your ‘a-ha’ moment or a recent win with me in the comments section of the episode page.
In This Episode
Quotes
“We are in our bodies. It is the vessel, the vehicle, by which we get around. It houses our intellect, our emotional being, our energetic being, it is how we interact with people and have a human experience.” (8:56)
“It is very, very common for people to want to go right to gentle nutrition first, it's familiar, but here is the reason why gentle nutrition is the last principle in the book. A lot of people think, ‘oh it would be more credible if it was in the beginning’. But there is a reason for that.” (14:34)
“We need to understand that what we choose to eat has to also work for us as mental, emotional beings, and all of the other aspects of our wellbeing. It can't just be the physical.” (15:51)
“Mindset is a key part of the framework that I teach because how we think about food directly affects our actions.” (21:28)
“Our bodies are innately wise, and we meddle in that because we have been taught to distrust.” (23:18)
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LTYB 288: How To Ditch Dieting (Intuitive Eating Principle 1)
LTYB 289: Honoring Your Hunger (Intuitive Eating Principle 2)
LTYB 292: Make Peace With Food (Intuitive Eating Principle #3)
LTYB 293: Challenging The Food Police (Intuitive Eating Principle 4)
LTYB 296: 3 Ways to Make Eating More Satisfying (Intuitive Eating Principle 5)
LTYB 297: 3 Ways to Honor Your Body’s Fullness (Intuitive Eating Principle 6)
LYTB 300: 4 Questions to Ask About Emotional Eating (Intuitive Eating Principle 7)
LYTB 301: How To Practice Body Respect (Intuitive Eating Principle 8)
LTYB 303: Stop Earning and Burning Your Food Through Movement (Intuitive Eating Principle 9)
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Diet culture has told us that exercise is the tool we need to use to earn the food we want to eat, burn off the food we have already eaten, and control our bodies. In reality, exercise and movement can be something that adds dimension and joy to your life, but only if you let go of this perfectionist mentality. Movement has so many other benefits, and controlling the size of your body is just simply not one of them.
Key Takeaways
If you want to stop using exercise as a tool of control you have too:
When Did Movement Get Replaced by Exercise?
There is a good chance that at some point in your life, movement for the sake of enjoying movement was replaced by exercise and the desire to control what your body looks like. I remember the exact moment that happened to me as a young girl who was in a bigger body than the rest of her schoolmates. Despite loving being active, society told me that I should be more concerned with my aesthetics than with my relationship to movement.
Shifting Your Mindset Around Movement
I want you to know that this perfectionism mindset is not the truth, and it is possible to embrace exercise as a sustainable way to add value and joy to your life, rather than just something you hate and use to earn your food. The all or nothing mentality that society has pushed around exercise and our bodies is getting in the way of you doing the kind of movement that feels really great. By getting clear on what your body is telling you, you can weave movement into your life in a way that is nourishing and more aligned for you.
Your Worth Is Not Based on What You Can Do
Getting stuck in the mentality of having your worth based on what you can do is a false promise. So many things can happen outside of our control that can shake this foundation. Instead of placing your value in your exercise routine or the number on the scale, movement can be a stepping stone to realizing that movement is about so much more than just controlling your body and keeping it smaller. By being gentle with yourself in terms of expectations, letting go of the all or nothing mindset that society has bred into us, and finding a type of movement that aligns with what makes your body comfortable.
How has your relationship to movement and exercise changed through the presence of diet culture? What type of movement do you feel aligns with where you are, here and now? Share your thoughts on Intuitive Eating Principle 9 with me in the comments on the episode page.
In This Episode
Quotes
“We're going to talk today about how to shift your mindset and practice from exercise being something you hate, something you do to earn the food you want to eat or burn off the food you did eat, and into something that is a sustainable practice that really adds dimension and joy to your life and brings so many other benefits besides just controlling the size of your body.” (2:30)
“For me, my endurance, movement and exercise became a way for me to hide and run away from my other problems in my life.” (14:33)
“There's just so many things that can happen that then shake that foundation if you stop your personal development and growth at the stage of just thinking you are only as good as what you can do.” (16:31)
“There are so many reasons why you may be predisposed to all or nothing thinking, you may have learned perfectionist outlooks as a young person, or if you were perfect, then that meant that the important people who kept you feeling safe in your life wouldn't go away. For me, that's one of the origins of my perfectionism, and I have had to learn how to unpack that.” (25:54)
“How can you start to weave movement into your life in a way that is really nourishing? Is it a way for you to care for your body in a basic way? And works with your personal preferences and your life setup?” (31:10)
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LTYB 288: How To Ditch Dieting (Intuitive Eating Principle 1)
LTYB 289: Honoring Your Hunger (Intuitive Eating Principle 2)
LTYB 292: Make Peace With Food (Intuitive Eating Principle #3)
LTYB 293: Challenging The Food Police (Intuitive Eating Principle 4)
LTYB 296: 3 Ways to Make Eating More Satisfying (Intuitive Eating Principle 5)
LTYB 297: 3 Ways to Honor Your Body’s Fullness (Intuitive Eating Principle 6)
LYTB 300: 4 Questions to Ask About Emotional Eating (Intuitive Eating Principle 7)
LYTB 301: How To Practice Body Respect (Intuitive Eating Principle 8)
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Having joy in your workout can help you get closer to your goals, feel comfortable in your here and now body, and connect to movement in a way that breaks down the barriers so commonly seen in fitness culture. Kanoa Greene uses her warmth, radiance, and strength to encourage and support others to find joy in movement and show up in the fitness space exactly as you are now.
Key Takeaways
In Order To Show Up As Your Authentic Self You Must:
Fitness For Everybody And Every Body with Kanoa Greene
Kanoa Greene is a fitness coach and trainer who is passionate about bringing fitness to everybody and every body. A plus size girl herself, Kanoa knows first hand the importance of representation and inclusivity in the fitness space. While she has had to switch up her coaching model due to the pandemic, she has found her tribe bringing weekly workouts to Instagram that get creative in breaking down the fitness wall even further.
Finding Joy In Movement
Kanoa’s radiant and positive energy is contagious, which is clear during her weekly dance parties and finding joy in working out. Kanoa believes that movement can help bridge the gap between your mental and emotional health, and wants to show up in a fitness space where there is not an accurate representation of larger bodies. By inviting all bodies to be part of the conversation, Kanoa is making a place for everybody and proving that anyone can be part of this movement.
Everybody Is Struggling, Not Just You
Kanoa owns her role as the ‘hot mess express’ and her main goal is to authentically share where she is right now to inspire you to do the same. By not sweating the small stuff, finding encouragement in unexpected places, and learning how to navigate conversations on image-based platforms, you too can find a feeling of support and safety in Kanoa’s world. Kanoa wants you to know that everybody is struggling, and by surrounding yourself with positivity and encouragement, you can show up just as you are.
How are you working to stop comparing yourself to others and start showing up authentically as you are now? Share what you loved most about Kanoa’s energetic, positive and accepting perspective in the comments on the episode page.
In This Episode
Quotes
“There’s not a lot of times you get to see an instructor that looks like me, but also someone who is teaching a class like boot camp or spin or some of these more strength conditioning classes. So my role was really to come in there and make movement accessible and tear down that wall.” (8:23)
“I want to move for joy but I also want to move with intentionality.” (13:23)
“If I can show up and help ease that for someone else. If I can create that safe space and she can look at me and say ‘if she can do that hard thing, I can do one little step. If she can take a big old leap, I have the courage and confidence with her to take even a small step’. That’s why it is important for me to show up in as many places as I need too, especially when there is not that representation there.” (16:38)
“We all have different experiences, we are all different human beings, and as long as you are living your authentic self then you do you boo!” (22:28)
“No matter what it is that I am doing, its, ‘I am struggling too. I am a hot mess on a lot of those workouts’. I am sweating, I am dying, and I am working too, I am struggling too, and I am in this right alongside with you.” (24:12)
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